You only know how it feels when you experience it. So painful, a miscarriage. How someone deals with it differs from person to person. One person still has to come to terms with it emotionally, while the other would like to be pregnant again as soon as possible. How long should you wait to get pregnant again and how big is the risk of another miscarriage?
Most miscarriages occur in the first three months of pregnancy. Unfortunately, about a quarter of the women have to deal with them. In most cases it is because the foetus is not developing normally. This can be related to an unhealthy lifestyle of the mother, but it does not have to be. Usually there is something else going on, such as hormonal abnormalities, anatomical abnormalities, infections of the uterus, and so on. After a miscarriage, blood loss can last for two to four weeks, the pregnancy hormone drops gradually and it usually takes about four to six weeks for it to subside completely before your period starts again. The first period may be more intense than usual.
Getting pregnant straight after a miscarriage
After the miscarriage it may feel scary to get pregnant again, but in principle it is possible to get pregnant immediately. Because you don't know when your cycle will start again after the miscarriage, it's hard to take your fertile-days
into account. Once you have had your period again it is easier to take your ovulation into account. A miscarriage has no effect on a subsequent pregnancy, so if you are pregnant again immediately, this is without risk and does not mean that there is a greater chance of another miscarriage. In fact, research has shown that couples who try to conceive within three months of a miscarriage have a faster rate of pregnancy and a better chance of a successful pregnancy. However, it is recommended that you give your uterus two weeks' rest before trying again.
As we saw, the risk of another miscarriage is not increased. About 90-95% will not miscarry next time. However, after two miscarriages the chance of having another miscarriage increases by about 25% and after three miscarriages the chance increases to 35%. Have you had a second miscarriage? It may be coincidence, but there may also be another cause. Together with doctors you will have to investigate whether an underlying cause can be found. For example, there may be a birth defect that occurred during conception. To find out, your and your partner's chromosomes must be examined. Unfortunately, only 15% of couples with miscarriages find out what the cause is.
Fraid of a repeat
A miscarriage is hard to deal with and takes time, because your child is of course very wanted. Everyone handles it differently. Women (and dads) can lose faith and become anxious about the next pregnancy. Every little pain can cause great concern. Are you unsure? Talk to your partner, friends, family or midwife! Together you can get through this!